That's the Night That the Lights Went Out in Oxford

Friday afternoon of "unpacking week" a huge thunderstorm rolled through Oxford, and we lost power for a few hours in the middle of our "hanging artwork in the den" project. Still exhausted from the week, I offered up a silent prayer of thanksgiving and sank blissfully onto the couch to read a mindless novel in the dim light.

Mom, however, was neither silent nor blissful. My mom's oncology meds give her hot flashes and have made her more hot-natured in general. (I got my cold-natured blood from my mom. She is the only person I have ever known who kept a sweater in the car. In Mississippi. In July.) The thought of a world without cool breezes is as terrifying to my Mom as the idea of a world without Diet Coke is to me. It's that level of panic.

Mom's flashing back to post-Katrina times when she, Dad, and Weese went without electricity for a week in August when she remembered that she had bought all of us (herself, Frankie, and me) battery-operated fans after Katrina *just in case* such an air-conditioning emergency should occur again. And, having done most of the unpacking, she knew where it was. Problem: the fan took 8 D batteries. After a mental scavenger hunt, I tallied up 3 flashlights scattered amongst house and car that used D batteries, and 2 extras amongst my toolkit stuff. Clearly this was a sign from the battery gods that Mom must have cool breezes.

I handed the batteries over to Mom who spent the next 20 minutes trying to figure out how to get the batteries into the fan. No success. She went to lie down with a cool rag and left it to me. Just to be clear, any situation that requires me assembling or dissembling equipment is directly analogous to the athletic activity scenario. I have two words for you: Score. Keeper. But Mom really seemed to need it, and she had spent the past 2 days orchestrating my kitchen and laundry room. So, I had to try.

I sat down at the fan and flipped it around a few times. I eventually noticed two little plastic slide tabs on the back with padlock impressions on top of them. They looked strikingly similar to the safety lock on the backup battery that attaches to my work laptop. They worked strikingly similarly, as well. I got the back off of the fan and got the batteries in the appropriate slots. (And in the appropriate directions, Erin.)

I folded the battery wall back into the fan and watched the batteries fall into the blades. I had forgotten to put the panel back on after I put the batteries in. (I told you I should have been score keeper.) Fishing the batteries out of the fan cage, I put them back in, reattached the panel, and successfully reassembled the fan. Small victory, but I was pretty proud.

I took it into Mom, blades spinning and cool breezes blowing. "You got it working?!" she asked incredulously. "Yup," I said, "but these aren't super-strong batteries. So, you can have the fan, but I don't know if we'll have any flashlights tonight." "OH...," said Mom, "Well, maybe I shouldn't use it then. I hadn't thought about that." [Insert me: head dropping, mouth agape.] I exhaled deeply, nodded my head, and went back to my book and couch.

Eventually, as I had suspected all along, the lights (and the air conditioning) came back on. Pictures were hung. Batteries were redistributed to their respective flashlights. And we went to bed: Mom in the guest room with two fans blazing and me in my room buried beneath two quilts. In Mississippi. In July.

Like The Prodigal Son...

... my furniture has found its way home. And yes, I did run out to meet it. No fatted calves were harmed in the process of this reunion.

The moving truck did arrive last week on Tuesday. As a double bonus, they actually arrived with my furniture in the truck. (At this point in the game I fully expected them to show up with somebody else's furniture.) Out of all the antiques, artwork, and ancient furniture that could have been destroyed, one brave little generic lamp stepped up and took one for the team, sparing the more sentimental pieces from a piece-ful death and sparing The Liars from my presence in their offices in a 24-hour window.

The week of Moving Day, Mom and Xena (the 65 lb. "puppy") were on-hand to help me settle in the new abode. I was working half-days with my university gig; but even with that break, my mental and physical fatigue put most of the unpacking and organizing burden on Mom. If she hadn't been here, I would still be sleeping in a sea of boxes. I probably would have just thrown some blankets over the boxes and told visitors, "Oh, yes, I've finished unpacking... That? Um, that's an antique bench, but it's not very stable, so you can't sit there."

I do actually have such a bench, so it wouldn't be hard to convince people that I had acquired two of them. Don't worry; if you come visit, I'll make sure that you know which one it is in advance. The real bench, of course...

A lot can happen in a few hours

But not a lot that gets you any furniture.

Last Tuesday I got a voice mail from The Frontmen that the truck was there that day (as opposed to Monday when it was supposed to be there) and that it was loading my furniture. The problem was that it was going to be there through the rest of the week loading other people's furniture as well and wasn't going to leave MD 'til late in the week. Surprising? At this point, no. Frustrating? Yes. Of course.

Tuesday was a long day at Math Camp, so I didn't feel like dealing with the hotel when I got home. Wednesday evening (around 9:00 PM) I called the front desk, asking to extend my stay again for another week(ish). Caesar (guy at the front desk) says, "We can do that, but there's one problem: we're sold out tomorrow night. There's a conference in town, and we're booked solid." [Insert: me, staring blankly at the phone] "What?" "But we're available again on Friday, so you could come back then..." "You're telling me that I've got to pack up all my stuff and move out of this room for one night but that I can come back again after that?" "That's right," he says cheerfully. " [Sigh]... okay" I respond, considerably less cheerfully. "How big is this conference? What about the other hotels in town?" "Hmmm," Caesar says (I can hear him shaking his head), "The last I heard they were pretty full."

I get off the phone and decide to call around. I search every drawer in the room. There is no phone book here. I call back downstairs and ask Caesar to connect me to the H.I.Express (the only other hotel I can think of in town that doesn't have the word "motel" in its name). He does (and then charged me for that call, I might add). HIE had one available room: smoking. Not worth it.

B/c it is The South, of course we have family friends who live in town; so I call Mz. Julianna, apologize for the short notice, explain the hotel situation, and ask if I can please use their guest room the next night. She says yes (thank you!), and I start packing up some of my stuff that night. I had only really "stocked" the room as of the day before to try to settle in for the week ahead: I had actually bought groceries. I had been to the library and gotten books. Now, I have to schlep all that stuff to the house before I go to camp in the morning. I have to take it there b/c it was 95 degrees last week with 105% humidity, and very few things can survive in a car in that kind of weather all day. Diet Cokes explode, lipsticks melt, and milk... well, let's just stay that you don't want to see (or smell) that milk ever again. EH-VER.

Math Camp starts at 8:30, but summer school is in session and starts at 8:00 => if you don't get to campus by 7:45, there's no parking. So, I get up very early, pack, & make 2 trips to the car (groceries, laundry, etc.) to load up. On the 3rd trip I stop by the front desk to make sure they didn't need anything else from me and joke with the girl, "I have to move out b/c of the conference, but I'll be back tomorrow night." "Let me see if I have any cancellations," she says. Qu'est-ce que c'est? (to quote Durant). "Really?... I mean, I could change rooms or something, if that would help..." "Oh, I don't think that will be necessary" she interrupts. [Insert: me staring blankly at her] "What?" "You're fine where you are; we have room. How long did you need to extend your stay?"

First thought: "Oh my gosh! I love this girl." Second thought: "I'm going to kill Caesar." First words out of mouth: "A week would be good; thank you SO much!" Third thought kicks in: "I gotta' haul all this stuff back upstairs?" Fourth thought quickly follows: "I am going to kill Caesar!"

So, back I go to the car, and fight my way several times back up the elevators with all the conference-goers hoofing it downstairs for the breakfast buffet. I've rarely seen people so excited about free bagels and cereal. There might have been waffles out that day, though. That would have explained the crush.

Theoretically my furniture is arriving tomorrow at what I've began to call my "weekend home." We'll see. A lot can happen in a few hours. At this point I wouldn't be surprised if the truck was attacked by a flock of wild birds or something else equally likely. Does insurance cover flocks of wild birds?...

Painting Rooms (Part II)

Early the next morning, Mom and I arrived at the house and started “cutting in” on my bedroom walls. I quickly realized that the job at hand bore a striking similarity to putting on eyeliner, except I was working with a much bigger brush and a much wider surface. This, I could do. As I made progress, Mom started rolling paint on the walls that were ready. I kept working. I turned around a few minutes later and noticed a couple of small paint spots where Mom had clearly bumped the ceiling with the roller.

Just to tease her, I said, "Whoops, Mom, looks like you need to be a little more careful there! "What?" she asked innocently. "You're bumping the ceiling -- see those spots?" "I didn't do that; you did," she replied. [In the distance, a cock crowed. Et tu, Mom?] I handled the situation like the adult that I am: "Nuh-uh!"

We went back and forth for a few more minutes. I wasn't upset that she'd bumped the ceiling; my gosh, she was helping me out. But I thought it was so funny that she was truly convinced that she hadn't done it. But she had. And when I was rolling the walls later, I totally did it, too.

I was good at cutting in. (All those years of makeup training.) Rolling was a different story. Rolling required coordination and some level of comfort with the painting tools. If there is anything I learned at a multitude of childhood sportscamps it’s that if there is an activity involving any sort of eye-hand coordination or equipment, the position in which I can best serve the team is that of the scorekeeper. Or possibly the watergirl. I persevered, but the inner-Bree was troubled with my wall's final results. I called Mom in to inspect, and she said, "Oh, I think you're doing greeeaaat!..." (This was the exact phrase and tone of voice she used when I played soccer in the 3rd grade. I was so "great" that the coach asked me to stay in the back and "help the goalie".) I also looked down to discover a previously unnoticed Jackson Pollack masterpiece just outside the border of the dropcloth beneath me. Not only was I not great, I was also messy. Shoot. Clean up, aisle 1...

I had thought we were only doing the guest bedroom and the study, but Mom wanted to do all 3 bedrooms. The master bedroom has cathedral ceilings, which is why I was hesitant to tackle that room without Dad; but Mom said she brought "the big ladder", so we would be fine. After we'd already begun in my room, she looked up and exclaimed, "My word, that's tall; I'd forgotten about those ceilings!" I hadn't. But, too late now. Doh.

I am about 5'9". The ladder she brought was about 6'. I climbed up to the top step (the tip-top step is more of a platform, to hold paint trays and such) and realized that I could reach nowhere near the top of the walls from there. "Can I stand on the very top of this thing?" I asked her. "Oh sure; you'll be fine," she said. I put my paintbrush handle sideways in my mouth, held my paint cup in one hand and used the other to balance on the rail as I pulled myself to the very top of the ladder. I stood up, found my balance, and exhaled with relief. Then, the whole ladder shifted. "MMGGRRGGHHH!" I muffled through the paintbrush handle. "Bless you, " Mom said. After my heart started beating again, I moved the brush and informed her, "That wasn't a sneeze; that was me screaming with a paint brush in my mouth. The ladder moved." Seeing that I wasn't lying in a heap of broken bones on the floor, my mother looked up at me and said, "Oh. Well, you're fine now..." Moms. No blood, no sympathy.

By the end of Day One, I had so much spackling and paint smeared on and under my nails that it looked like I'd been given French tips by a manicurist with a lazy eye. I had also gotten it in my hair somehow, which looked like a kindergartener had decided to give me summer highlights with Liquid Paper. Lovely.

On Day Two, I got more paint on my clothes, more paint in my hair, and even paint in my eye. But we got the job done; and it looks a lot prettier and cleaner than it did before, so I'm glad it's done. And in true Southern female fashion, I have officially laid claim on the property. I have painted it. I have personalized it. I have made it mine, and it is good.

But if Habitat for Humanity calls any time soon, I'm still going to tell them they'd be better off just making me scorekeeper.

Painting Rooms (Part I)

Since I knew that I had a considerable block of time before my furniture arrived, I decided that I should probably go ahead and repaint a few rooms in the house. And since I didn’t have any boxes to unpack, this weekend seemed like a good time to do it.

I was thinking about these plans theoretically on Wednesday afternoon. My mom called Wednesday night. “I think you should paint the bedrooms in the house this weekend, and I can come up to help,” she said. “I think I should, too; and it would be nice to have some help…” “Okay, good,” she interjected cheerfully. “Now, you need to go try to scratch some paint off of one of the walls and take a sample with you to the store. And you also need to get the paint they left you from the den and open it and put a little on some paper and let it dry so that they can see what it looks like dry, and then take that with you too. Ask them to help you pick out a color. Make sure it won’t clash with the den, since this is going to go in the hallway, but that will cover the grey in the bedrooms. Ask them how much paint they think it will take. And ask them about primer." (My mother has a way of making “theoretical” plans very real.) “Um, okay,” I say, scrambling for the Hampton Inn complimentary notepad and pen.

“Now, can you take off work on Friday?” she asked. “Huh?” I replied brilliantly. “For us to start painting,” she explained patiently. “Oh…well… yes…” (In my world, the weekend starts on Saturday. In Mom’s world, the weekend apparently starts on Friday.) “So, what you’re saying is that in order for us to get started on this on Friday, you need me to do all the Home Depot stuff tomorrow?” “Yes." “Um, okay…” I responded again, mentally rescheduling my entire next day. (It wasn’t that full, but changing plans with less than 24 hrs notice has been known to cause me actual physical pain.)

The next morning I got up, went to the house, gathered my respective paint samples and headed off to Home Depot. I’d never had to make paint decisions before, so the Bree Vandekamp in me was a little concerned. But going to Home Depot looks so fun in their commercials and my mom assured me that they would know what to do. (Mom had clearly seen the same Home Depot commercials as I had.) I walked up to the paint counter, explained my situation to the person there, and she looked at me like a deer in the headlights. She was very nice; but after about 10 minutes of my trying to guide her through helping me, I walked away with two books of paint samples that I’d already picked up on my own (but didn’t want to tell her).

I went to the office, overwhelmed by the abundance of whites, near whites, neutrals, and nearly neutral non-white paint colors in the world. Thankfully, one of my coworkers sent me to a local paint store; and in true small town fashion, Steve and Bryan knew my name, my mother’s name, and what paint color I needed in about 5 minutes.

Crisis solved. Now I just had to survive the painting itself.

My furniture is being held hostage in Maryland.

After five years of working for the gov't in Maryland, I am returning to my roots (and my accent) at the University of Mississippi to pursue a PhD in Math Education. The decision to do so was difficult, the weeks of heartfelt goodbyes to friends and coworkers were even harder; but apparently none of these tasks was as arduous as the task my movers had of finding their way from Abingdon, MD (where the warehouse lives) to Oxford, MS (where I now live).

I wanted professional movers to handle my physical relocation. (As I used to tell the girls at The Junior League, "No, I don't have children; I have antique furniture.") I contacted a national moving chain (whom I soon came to know as, "The Liars"); and soon, a rep from a local contracting company (whom I have since deemed, "The Frontmen") came to my house to give me an estimate on the cost of my move. The rep gave me an estimate of 4-7 days from the time of departure to the time of delivery. Super! Wonderful! That gave me time to get to Mississippi, close on the house, start my new job, line the new closet shelves, and be ready to greet the moving crew with bottles of water and energy beverage of their choice. (After all, I'm from The South - I have to be hospitable to the poor men I'm forcing to haul my furniture around in 90 degree heat with 100 percent humidity.)

On moving day, my belongings "temporarily" went to live at The Frontmen's warehouse to wait to be loaded onto The Liars' mega-truck with other partial loads to be delivered (within the next 4-7 days, obviously). When a suitable set of caring parents (I.e., a truck and a driver) were matched with my longing-to-be-adopted household goods, I would be contacted with a more precise date and means of contacting said driver.

My furniture left Annapolis, Maryland on June 22. I left Annapolis, Maryland on June 23. I arrived in Mississippi on June 23. I did not make the trip in 16 straight hours for the sake of challenging The Liars to an "Amazing Race" type duel; but in the process, I did prove the existance of a path between Maryland and Mississippi. (QED.)

I called The Frontmen almost every day and received the same answer, "No, I'm sorry; we haven't assigned a driver to your shipment yet. But we will keep checking and let you know as soon as we know anything." As soon as it became obvious that, 16-hour marathon drive or no 16-hour marathon drive, my goods were NOT getting to Mississippi by that 7-day end range, I was given an option to talk to The Liars customer service line, which I did.

As with most customer service lines, this was a professional stall technique employed by The Liars to keep me busy thinking I was making headway, while in reality they were presumably building playforts out of all my boxes in the Frontmen's warehouse. In the meantime, The Liars offered to put me up at a local hotel and pay a certain percentage of my food costs. Good of them, yes; but (a) I'd rather have my stuff (b) there ain't no Marriott in Oxford, MS.

After 3 or 4 more days of "hospitably" calling, politely querying the status of my move, and repeatedly thanking my customer service rep (aka, my "Personal Staller") for his time and assistance, I was informed that my goods had been assigned to a truck. At last! When? Personal Staller's response: July 9th.

July 9th?... July 9th??!! My furniture that was supposed to be here at latest on June 29 isn't even leaving Maryland 'til July 9? In one giant exhale/inhale of breath, out went the last of my politeness and in rushed all the pent up frustration and rage of a Southern Belle who has been pushed past the fringes of hospitality. "Whaddya' mean July 9th? Mih stuff was s'posed to be here lahst week, and yer tellin' me it ain't leavin' Marylan' 'til JOO-LIE NIHNTH?" (My accent gets a lot thicker when I'm really upset.)

Personal Staller, clearly startled by my turn of tone, paused noticeably and stumbled, "Um, um... yes, July 9th..." to which I responded, "No, no - you listen here: this is UN-AC-CEPTABLE; and yall'd better do somethin' real quick, or else I'm about ready to tell y'all to just give me my money back; and I will come back up to Mar'lan' and rent a truck and haul it back down here myself. I made it from Mar'lan' to Miss'ssippi in ONE DAY; I KNOW it can be done!"

As a "customer service rep", it was understandable that Personal Staller himself could not do anything to expedite my situation, so I asked him (politely) to give me to somebody who "might could". He checked, and his supervisor was "not available at that time" (cowards), but he would have her call me. To my surprise, she did call me back and recited the traditional lines of "we are experiencing problems with logistics and transportation, and we apologize for the inconvenience; but there is nothing we can do." I tried everything from tears to threats of going door-to-door to warn people about The Liars and their evil ways (I grew up in The Bible Belt; I know how to hand out a tract or two), but it was to no avail. I hung up with her, ranted to a few friends, and then sat down to well-deserved rest-of-the-day sulk about it.

The Liars claim my stuff will leave Maryland next Tuesday. When will it get to Mississippi? The moving gods (whom I have clearly angered) only know. In the meantime I will wait at The Hampton Inn (which is quite nice) to be reunited with my antique furniture and European paintings... and the rest of my clothes... and shoes... and handbags... oh my gosh, I'm practically camping...